I am in a bit of a quandary here… As many of you know, I just got married July 6...well, as it goes… My husband and his two boys have been taking care of his elderly mother since his father passed away quite a few years ago (and yes, I knew I married a package deal)… Now, the boys are both grown. And we weren’t aware of it, but the oldest decided to leave and go to Florida the night that we got married, and the youngest is never there. So now… My husband is wanting us to move into his mothers house so she won’t be alone. Granted, it will save us between 1500 to 2000 a month… but, the house is much smaller (and between his stuff, my stuff and our stuff, the house would be crazy full, and truthfully, I am not sure that I can take care of an 80-year-old woman who refuses to do anything for herself… I refuse to put her in a nursing home however, because she is the only surviving parent we have… But she has gone so far as to throw away my wedding cake the day after our wedding because she didn’t like the taste of it, has already given me "orders" to clean her glass collection, is forever wanting me to cook a certain way, and is constantly asking me to do this or that for her. I truly believe she has dementia (or the start of it). I'm dont want her to be alone but I am worried about how I can take care of her when I work 12 hour shifts at night. What are some of your thoughts and ideas about all of this? I’m trying to be positive and objective when it comes to this situation. I think we should, but dang it, I am not sure I want to!
Advice? Suggestions? Anything and everything appreciated!
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